Formspring: Long Distance Relationships // THATS WHAT SHE SAID.

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Finally a question I can answer! ?I am the queen of long distance relationships and let me tell you, it is not a title you want. I don?t know if it has to do with the fact that I?m unlucky when it comes to relationships or if I just can?t get a guy within a 20 mile radius to deal with/commit to me. ?Either way, I?m no stranger to it. ?My ex-boyfriend moved 7 hours away in the middle of our relationship, the last guy I dated lived 2.5 hours away, and the last guy that I had a mutual genuine interest in (whom I met in Boston) was here on break? from Colorado. ?So yea, I think that sets up my long distance repertoire pretty well.

Anywho, I?m gonna go ahead and say majority of long distance relationships can?t work. ?It?s tough. ?Trying to find time in each other?s busy schedules to talk to each other, let alone visit each other, is not easy. ?Takes a lot of effort and commitment and those are hard to give to someone that you don?t get to see. ?Both persons have to put in a concerted effort to show that they?re still in the relationship 100% and if even one person slips a little, well you saw for yourself what happens.

Another reason why long distance does not work is because of trust. ?When I was in one I was tempted to cheat all the time. ?Most people don?t take long distance relationships seriously, so most people won?t respect your relationship. ?That means the temptation is straight up Eve and the apple status. ?And knowing that the temptation is there for you, makes you realize that it is there for the other person and whether or not you can overcome it, doesn?t mean you trust your partner to. ?I know everyone says ?I trust my man/woman, they would never do that to me,? ?but the thought still lingers like a ticking time bomb and all you need is to hear that one giggling coworker in the background to set it off.

But, alas, I do have one scenario in which the long distance relationship works and that is when one person decides to make a move THE move. ?If the relationship is so important to both parties and the love and opportunity (I say opportunity cause in this day and age it takes more than love to just up and leave your home) that one or both of you are willing to make the move then it could work. ?That step in the relationship is HUGE. ?Without the possibility of the two parties being permanently reunited then long distance relationships are pointless and a waste of energy. ?It takes a lot to make one work and at the end of the day one of you has to take that hop, skip, and jump to be with the other.

So, my answer is long distance relationships rarely work unless one of you is going to move to the other.

Now I?m gonna leave you with probably the most popular long distance relationship song ever written:

Fun Fact: Delilah dumped his ass for another man. ?Can you imagine that song coming on the radio while Delilah and her new boyfriend are driving along? Yikes! Good for the Plain White T?s though, that song put them on the map? that they somehow managed to fall off of. Do they still exist?

Source: http://thatswhatshesaidboston.com/2012/03/formspring-long-distance-relationships/

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